It Is All About the Balance
Every day is an opportunity for growth. At least that is how it seems most days.
Nearly 6 years ago I attended a talk given by Dr. John DeMartini. A friend recommended it and she was right. He was selling what I wanted to buy. A life free from imbalance, anger, regret and chaos. It made sense, but I told myself a story that I would have to travel to LA or New York or Chicago to indulge in his Breakthrough Experience. Oh well, some day. I had done enough self-help. I had forked over enough money in search of the way, the answer, the cure. “Just enjoy the talk,” I told myself, and then I heard the magic words fall from his lips.
“I am offering the course this Saturday and Sunday here in Phoenix and I have a few seats left and am offering a discount.”
In town and on sale. I was in. The girlfriend I was with, different than the one that had told me about him, and I stood up and raced to the back of the room on our 5’10” legs and were slapping down the plastic to get in on the deal. It was Thursday night. I only had to wait 36 hours.
Saturday was seventeen hours of lectures and doing the process. Sunday was twelve. It was intense, informative, funny, and transformative. It was simple and challenging all rolled into one program. I thought the end result was interesting, but not mind blowing. I had acquired a new process, probably one I might never use again like so many others I had attended, but oh well.
Over the next four days I realized my life had changed forever. It might have been subtle to some, but the synchronicity was jaw-dropping. It was the end of May and I immediately signed up for the August class in Houston to learn how to be a facilitator. Those were among the best five days I had spent in years.
It is simple work. It is about getting over the one-sided stories that we tell ourselves and how they run our lives. It is about balance and looking at all of life as benefits and drawbacks in every situation.
I have had many folks state that I now believe there is no good and bad or right and wrong, but that is not the case. There is only my opinion and analysis of every situation as filtered through my perceptions and values. So, I am no longer right or wrong, I just am. If I do not like the outcome or my reaction, I can analyze it and find the balance again. It has put me fully in charge of my emotions and left me with the knowledge that if I do not enjoy the emotion, I can change it or not.
I spent a good part of the past two weeks working out long held beliefs about myself. Beliefs that have greatly affected my self-worth. I can see the order in my choices and I can see the benefits and drawbacks to a life of decisions that on paper might cause me to judge myself harshly. Those castigations are now gone, but do not despair, the universe and my subconscious will be happy to dig up more for my viewing enjoyment.
Until then, I shall skip around this life for a bit and enjoy the sunshine.
