Disappointment

How often do you use the word disappointed? In what are you disappointed? Is it that an expectation was not met? Disappointment is another form of control. It is something that you humans use to describe something that does not match your pictures or expectations. People disappoint you, events disappoint you. You disappoint yourselves. Is it a feeling of being “let down” or is it greater than that. Was the thing or behavior yours to control? Can you be sure that had you received this thing or behavior that it would have been the best thing for you? Now, you may want to argue that it is something that you are positive would be in your best interest, but can you truly know that? 

Let go of the control and you will find far less disappointment in your lives. You didn’t get the promotion at work and you are disappointed. Was the promotion the best thing for you? Yes, we understand that it might have meant more money and more prestige, but was it truly the best thing for you to be doing? Are there other opportunities that you choose not to explore as you “wait” for the promotion? Are there things about your current performance that you could improve or change that would facilitate a better paying job or a more interesting one? Take a self-inventory and find out what else you can be doing that would energize and enliven you. The promotion might not be it. 

A friend disappoints you. They say or don’t say something. They are late or stand you up for an appointment. Their behavior does not match what they have said they will do. Are you upset and hurt by these actions? Why? Does most of it really matter in the greater scheme of things? Is it worth putting your energy into disappointment? Do you control that person? No, the only being that you control is yourself and this is true even if you are a parent. You guide your children and to them it may seem as though you control their lives, but you do not. You cannot keep them “safe” 24 hours a day for the rest of their lives. You do not know their destiny. All you can do is to guide them through the shoals of life as best you can. Give them the direction and the morality that you believe is necessary in the world and then from there they will find their way through the land mines and pitfalls of this thing called life. They don’t get good grades and you are disappointed. In what? Did you fail them? Did you not understand the lessons? Perhaps you did not realize the struggle they were having or perhaps you have not found the manner in which they can be enticed into learning, but you did not take the tests and go to school with them. Rather than being disappointed you might want to take that energy to help them find a solution to their success rather than compounding their disinterest. 

So, try to view and analyze where you are disappointed in life. Be very honest with yourself and see what you might be doing that is causing this disappointment, for the power to live fully in the moment of light and possibility is always within your reach and dare we say “control.” 

We leave you with uplifting thoughts and dreams.

Namaste

From We Are All In This Alone - A Spirtual Journey To Self - Insights of Babaji